Check out this list of innocent signals that may be offending people you meet.
Much of our nonverbal interaction is automatic, but much is also under our control if we want to devote mental energy to improving our gestures and facial expressions.
The title quotation is attributed to Turkish Novelist and Nobel Prize winner, Orhan Pamuk. The good news about his insight is that most everyone knows how to listen to a dog. When you meet one, since it cannot speak, you instinctively read it for signs of mood and danger. Is it’s tail wagging? Is it growling? Is it eyeing you suspiciously, or does it look like it wants to lick you and play with you?
As amazing as “man’s best friend is,” it can’t compare to human body language for all its richness and nuance. And as important a skill as it is to read dog body language, consider how much more important it is to be able to master reading human body language.
As a final note, remember that you are involuntarily delivering body language too. Are you delivering the message you mean to? Do people see your wagging tail or your barred fangs?
This June 27, 2015 article from The New York Times reports a fascinating study conducted by Dr. Nicholas Epley, a behavioral scientist from the Booth School of Business at the University of Chicago. He writes, “The closest you ever get to another person’s mind is through their mouth.” This brief article is worth a thorough read in order to understand the importance of spoken language (vs. text-based communication) in business and in life. Dr. Epley’s findings show that we sound smarter than our thoughts look.
Harvard Business Review’s recent article asserts that good breath support is the key to more persuasive public speaking. It reminds us that the way we sound will impact the way we are heard. So many simple tips that will help any speaker!
The way we use our voices, let alone the words we speak, matters to those who must hear and evaluate us. This article in The Atlantic explores the idea of confidence and clarity as they are projected in a well-supported voice. Fascinating audio examples included!
In this Forbes article, billionaire Richard Branson makes it clear that public speaking is the #1 skill that all people need to practice and perfect if they wish to be standouts in their fields. Fun information included about the practices of Jimmy Fallon and Jay Leno too.
Dianna Booher has become a favorite. This article outlines specifics for those who wish to present as leaders in their field. These 10-steps are worth reading and implementing…
A thoughtful blogger, Cadence Turpin, makes a great suggestion in this post, “A Better Way to Introduce Your Friends at Parties.” Let’s remember who our friends ARE, not just what they do!
Here’s a fun find about connections at the workplace. Personable communication may be a big contributor to job security!